Why?

"sorry" sor.ry

-adjective

1. feeling regret, compunction, sympathy, pity, etc.: to be sorry to leave one's friends; to be sorry for a remark; to be sorry for someone in trouble.

2. regrettable or deplorable, unfortunate; tragic: a sorry situation; to come to a sorry end.

I'd like to pose a question. WHY is this such a hard word to say? It's actually thrown around and used quite often, but when you're asked to say it and mean it....why do we find ourselves unable or choking for other words that MIGHT fit in it's place?

Is it so hard to admit when you're wrong? I know, I know. Most of you are probably thinking "YES!" as you read that last question. But when you really think about it...is it REALLY so hard to admit that maybe, even just that one instance, you weren't the "most correct" at the time? Most of the time it's a matter of pride. And in reality, who really likes to admit that they were wrong? I know I don't. But it's something even I have learned to do. Sometimes it's embarassing and gives a nice jab to your pride...but in the end, it's usually for the best. Don't you think?

I guess I'm writing this because of a recent experience I've witnessed. Bear with me and try to keep up. lol. Person A owes Persons B & C an apology. But Persons B & C both know they probably won't get it. And because of Person A having too much pride and truly thinking they could do no wrong, B & C are hurt and angry. And because B & C are upset, the people around them are upset too. It's a vicious cycle that effects more than just the people involved. This is a simple situation that could be resolved with a few words. We all know what they are. "I'm S-O-R-R-Y" or "I was wrong." We could even go for the more formal approach, "I apologize for my wrong-doing." Whatever the preference, it still needs to be said.

But why do most choose to bite their tongue and let the situation fester? Yes, I used the word "fester." I figured it was the most fitting word. Because that's what ends up happening. If we are too proud to admit we are wrong and apologize to those we have wronged, then the problem within the relationship, friendship, or whatever, FESTERS. And sometimes it can turn into a scar, even after amends are made, that tiny scar is still there, reminding you of what happened, and what could have possibly been avoided.

I've decided to set a little goal for myself. I'm going to try to be more conscious of this very situation I've written about. I don't want to catch myself being the one unable to say "I'm Sorry." I would like to challenge everyone to do this. It might create a happier atmosphere for some. Some of you probably already do this and don't have issues with this, which is great. But if you do, give it a try. It's sad to see relationships in trouble just because we can't seem to swallow our pride every once in awhile.